Most of us spend our lives looking for our soulmate so we can spend the rest of our lives with them and live happily ever after. We enter each relationship with the hope that this time everything would be different and we’ll find everlasting love. So, when problems arise we often feel disappointed, confused, or stuck.
You are not alone in this. Even the most caring, loving, intelligent people have problems at some stage in their relationships. People come together with their own set of values, beliefs, and expectations for a relationship. And sometimes this can clash.
In other relationships, daily life can put tons of stress on the partners. For example, raising children, financial pressures, daily obligations, and career stress often put a strain on the connection. These stressors can strain any relationship, no matter how strong it is and no matter how much the partners love and respect each other.
Life throws curveballs that complicate relationships, too. Infidelity and betrayal, the loss of a loved one, financial or health issues can put a relationship into a crisis mode very quickly.
The couple counseling will help couples of all types to acknowledge and resolve their conflicts, which will result in improving the relationship. The therapy can help you make thoughtful decisions regarding strengthening and repairing your relationship. I’m not saying that all relationships can be fixed. In some cases, you’ll decide to go on your separate ways, if this is the best decision for both of the partners.
The romantic movies teach us that “true love” means perfect harmony and romantic gestures every day. “Happily, ever after” leaves no room for conflicts and misunderstandings. But the truth is that couples who stay together sooner or later face their problems – and grow because of them.
Couple therapy can help you and your partner improve the quality of your relationship. The therapy is more effective when problems are correctly addressed as soon as possible. The best result comes when both of the partners are determined and work hard to rebuild their relationship.
Unfortunately, many couples are hesitant to give chance to couple therapy sessions. There is still a stigma and shame around the issue.
But there is nothing to be ashamed of. We live in a society where we are quick to replace everything “broken” (including relationship) without trying to fix it. If you and your partner still believe in your relationship and want to give yourself a chance, then therapy is the right answer for you.
Whatever your case is, couple counseling will assist you to address and manage any issues you might have regarding your romantic relationship.
As a therapist with over 17 years of experience, I have helped hundreds of couples in the San Jose, Milpitas, and Fremont areas.
Couple counseling is a wonderful outlet for you and your partner to reconnect and move ahead in your relationship. In my office, there is no finger-pointing or shaming. I use strengths-based and solution-focused techniques to identify the issues each person brings to the relationship. Counseling will allow you and your partner to set goals and resolve your conflicts. Many of my clients feel closer to their partners after a few sessions.
Hi, I’m Lia Huynh. I’m a Milpitas and San Jose Therapist who has helped hundreds of couples to restore their trust, feel closer to each other, and build better communication.
It’s natural for your partner to feel insecure, anxious, or nervous about therapy. However, couples counseling is still beneficial if only one of you attend the sessions. We will work together to improve the way you communicate with your partner, how to de-escalate arguments, and how to make changes that will enable your partner to do the same. There is also a chance that your partner may open toward the idea of counseling if you talk about your positive experiences, and once he or she sees some results. In fact, change usually happens when one of the partners gets the ball rolling!
I am afraid that you will side with my spouse.
My goal is to bridge the gap between you and your partner. I never take sides. Instead, I weigh each of your thoughts and feelings equally. My main goal is to help you two understand each other better and see your points.
But this does not mean that I condone infidelity, abuse, or addiction. If you are struggling with these problems, we will begin by healing these harmful habits. A strong relationship rests on faith, loyalty, and good physical and mental health.
I am afraid of my partner’s anger towards me coming out in the couples therapy session.
My office is a neutral space where you and your partner can talk out your problems. And I encourage my clients to express their feelings, anger included. But fighting during your session is a waste of time and money – you can argue at home for free! I mediate to make sure your discussions productive.
It is true, many couples have to squeeze in sessions on breaks or after long workdays; others need to hire babysitters. And therapy isn’t cheap. Yet time and time again, I hear, “Our marriage is worth the time and money spent.”
For anything we value, we must invest our resources to make it work.
Let’s face it: relationships take work. They can be complicated, and there is no handbook. And yet so often we feel pressured to have the perfect relationship and fix issues on our own, or worse – pretend that those issues do not exist.
Asking for help is a sign of maturity. By seeking couples counseling, you have shown you are not afraid to grow in your relationship. The courage to admit you don’t have the answers reveals you are committed to self-improvement. In turn, improving yourself brings you closer to your partner. Counseling does not make you a failure – it leads to success in your relationship for years to come. Learn more about Marriage Counseling here.
Couples counseling is not just a job, it’s my passion
I grew up in a divorced family and as a result never really had good role models for marriage. I told myself that I was going to learn as much as I could, do my own work on myself, and find others who I could look up to and emulate in my own marriage. As a result, I am passionate about helping others have successful marriages where there is love and intimacy.
I do more than just “listen”–I’m a results-driven and active therapist
I believe that being heard is very important in the session. However, I go beyond clients sharing their feelings. I am an active, solution-focused, and results-driven therapist that wants you to be successful in your marriage. That includes listening to you, but it also means being able to pinpoint what is holding you back and giving you a clear direction on how to move forward.
I have many years of experience–both professionally and in life
I have over 17 years of professional experience counseling others in relationships. To be honest, when I first started out, I really didn’t know what I was doing. However, through the years, I have really gained a skill for knowing what works and what doesn’t. I have also learned how to identify these things in a couple. This skill takes time to build– through practice– seeing different couples day in and day out.
Besides, I am proud to say that I have been happily married for 13 years. I have learned so much in my own journey. And we learn best when we are tied personally to something, don’t we? My husband and I are both human so I understand what it’s like to be married and to wrestle with issues. I also know the wonderful feeling of being in a good place in a marriage, knowing that you both are working at it together. Learn More about Relationship Therapy here.
If you are ready to move forward in your relationship, contact me today!