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Meet David

Hi, I’m David Huynh

As a Marriage and Relationship Coach, I help busy, successful professionals find love again so they can enjoy life.
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I believe there’s a right and wrong way to approach relationships:

First, here’s the WRONG way:

  • Argue about the same things over and over again
  • Refuse to listen to each other
  • Try to “argue” your point so your partner will listen to you
  • Shut down and give the silent treatment for long periods of time
  • Yell and scream so the other person will “hear” you.
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You may feel compelled to do these things in the moment but they only end up with both you and your partner feeling angry, alone, and hurt.


Trust me, I know. My marriage started this way (15 years ago), and because of these patterns,  we hit rock bottom.


Here is what I discovered about the RIGHT way to do relationships:


I need to: 

  • Maintain my relationship in order to grow (no such thing as autopilot!)
  • Be empathetic to your partner’s feelings
  • Be ready to problem solve ways to get both your needs met
  • Prioritize your relationship
  • Have fun together, laugh, and talk
  • Get help if you need it
  • Communicate, communicate, communicate

These things are the main ingredients for the recipe for successful relationships.


Less tension, more peace, more connectedness, more fun.

I’m here to help you not just have a peaceful relationship, but one that is thriving. I want your relationship to be the model for all of your friends to look to.


My Journey to Relationship and Marriage Coaching

I always thought that marriage would be like the fairy tales. I’d be the knight in shining armor to save my princess.  We would ride off into the sunset, smiling, happily ever after. We would never argue. She would always agree with me and nothing I did would ever be wrong. If it was, she would ever so gently tell me, and I would apologize. She would never be moody, we would never be stressed. We would hang out all the time, she would adore me.


Then reality hit.


After we got married, I was in for the shock of my life. We both had expectations that we felt were unfair. We got stressed and took things out on each other at times. We argued over chores. We stopped going out on adventures because we were “too tired.” We became comfortable and stopped communicating. We argued. A lot.


At that time, I was a pastor and my wife was (and still is!) a therapist. We thought to ourselves “people are looking to us for help. We need to be healthy ourselves before we can give advice to others.”


We began reading lots of books. All kinds of marriage, dating and relationship books. We would talk about them together, read them together, journal about them. We attended marriage seminars and listened to podcasts. We sought help from counselors, family, friends, coaches and other pastors.


We ultimately figured out what works and what doesn’t. And today 15 years later, I can honestly say that our marriage is the best it’s ever been, and keeps getting better.


I want to help you


I am a pastor of 20 years and over those 20 years, I had the privilege to counsel many couples and individuals who come to me for help. Sometimes it was religious in nature, but most of the time, these were real people with real problems. Tech workers, teachers, dentists, moms, you name it. Issues like communication to infidelity to parenting.  It was so rewarding to be able to help people who are struggling. I loved sharing everything I had learned so that I could prevent others from going through unnecessary heartache and even breakup.


People even from outside of the church started hearing about me through others I had counseled. I started helping people who weren’t in my church. Or maybe people who had a different church but for whatever reason wanted to get counsel from me.


I loved being able to work closely with people. To know their needs and to be able to help them out of their problems. I was seeing a lot of success and feeling like I wanted to dedicate more time to those who needed help.


 Now as a Marriage and Relationship Coach, I can focus on just that. And I can help you too. I can help you grow in your relationship, reach your goals and live your best life. I can help you stop hurtful pattern of conflict in your life and restore peace and connection. You don’t have to stay stuck in old patterns, frustrated and alone.


Reaching out is the most courageous and helpful thing you can do.


I look forward to supporting your path to happiness and wholeness!



David Huynh




“David helped us learn how to work through our differences and also how to communicate better. We actually even had a fight in front of him (not planned btw) that was very embarrassing but ended up being so helpful as he coached each of us on how we could better support the other person during these times – and together we came up with a game plan that we still use today when we fight. He even pointed out certain tendencies we had and also certain triggers so we could identify them. We’re thankful for him and our marriage is stronger today because of our time with David.


“David guided my then-fiancé and I through one of the lowest points in our relationship. He listened to both sides and shed light on what we were struggling with; we then continued to meet with him throughout the rest of our engagement. David helped us clarify the issue(s) that my now-husband and I continue to work on together to this day. I would highly recommend him to anyone seeking relationship counseling.”


Check out more reviews here!

Lia Huynh San Jose and Milpitas


My life’s work is helping individuals and couples get better. I help couples restore their sense of togetherness by rediscovering their strengths as individuals, and their collective strength as a duo. And I help my individual clients to negotiate the sources of depression and anxiety, while moving them gently toward feeling a deeper sense of connection with their world. This is all done through our counseling and therapy together. 


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